Connecting Women, Enriching Lives, Transforming Soles

Connecting Women, Enriching Lives, Transforming Soles

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Prior to Martha Stewart going away to prison, I wrote her a letter via e-mail. Having had a successful career in the criminal justice system, I had an opportunity to work with women who never imagined that one day this too would be a part of their journey.   I kept thinking “I bet she never thought one day she’d spend one day in jail, certainly not five months!”

Prior to Martha Stewart going away to prison, I wrote her a letter via e-mail. Having had a successful career in the criminal justice system, I had an opportunity to work with women who never imagined that one day this too would be a part of their journey.   I kept thinking “I bet she never thought one day she’d spend one day in jail, certainly not five months!”   I had so much compassion towards some of the women in my past and now I was feeling compassion towards her too.  I wanted to encourage her to keep her head up, and to remind her that people would be praying for her including me.  I received a specific e-mail back from Martha Stewart.  I read it (thinking that it was most likely computer-generated) and tossed it aside.  Later I would hear her say that she personally e-mailed every person she could who e-mail her a personal response!  How I’d wished that I had kept those words of encouragement and her letter in return. 

Through-out the years I kept returning to the thought that if this could happen to a 63-year-old multi-millionaire, Barnard College graduate, a business magnate who happens to be white.  How many other women in positions of leadership, or who was married to a person in the public’s eye were suffering humiliation, guilt, and shame in silence.  As Martha would have, if not for her “public image.  Out of interest, I started talking to my friends and other women.  And, to my surprise, many of these women had or were wallowing in guilt and shame. I was told stories of knowing someone, working with someone, growing up in the same house with someone, I was told personal stories of women who had or who were suffering mental, emotional, verbal and in some cases physical abuse.  I was told stories of make-up covered blackened eyes, covered again with a lie of walking into an opened door, covered again by the protection, adoption, and application of the “Image Is Everything” Slogan, covered again by a pair of high-end designer sunglasses that are covering the “pink eye” instead of “the truthful black eye.”  I heard stories of broken limbs, broken hearts, closeted drug, and alcohol use, out of control spending and shopping sprees, moral and spiritual depletion.  Stories of narcissism, controlling behaviors, cheating hearts, financial distress. But, most of these storytellers and journey sharers would never go public because of the belief, adoption and application of the “Image Is Everything” Slogan.  So, they like me suffered in silence.  And then the awakening…